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5 Steps to Dealing with a Bully Customer

5/20/2016

 
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The customer is (still) king--even when they're tough

Let’s face it — customers (or clients) are what keep us in business. Without the customer, there would be no business, no management, no worker bees, no complimentary coffee that tastes like gym socks in the office kitchen — and certainly no revenue.
At the end of the day, customers are the end-all, be-all. Without a willing buyer for your product or service, you simply cease to exist. The customer and the business aren’t mutually exclusive; they rely on one another. Yet in reality, the one who holds the most influence in the relationship is often the customer.

When Power Warps Behavior

Influence — or power, for that matter — has a strange way of changing how people behave. Sometimes it even creates monsters out of otherwise kind men and women.
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When customers become difficult to deal with, what we see on the surface often isn’t the full picture. To truly understand their frustration, we need to dig deeper.

A Pizza Shop Lesson in Compassion

​That reminds me of an old story from another lifetime — back when I was in high school. I was a server at a small pizza restaurant in the town I grew up in. I loved the job. I got to eat pizza all day and interact with some really great people — our customers.

Let’s be honest: everyone’s happy when they’re getting pizza. I genuinely loved this job.

Enter: The Difficult Regular

One day, a customer came in to pick up a pizza to-go. I had served this guy many times before, and every time it played out the same way.

He’d come in and immediately start frothing at the mouth about how his last purchase was awful — how it was never on time and “the pizza sauce sucked.”

“There are never enough pepperonis,” he’d complain. Then, like clockwork, he’d ask for the manager and demand a discount — which we usually gave him.
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It was like Groundhog Day, same script every time. I’d laugh to myself, wondering:
“If our food and service were really that bad… why does he keep coming back?” It was like some evil self-inflicted punishment. 

One Honest Conversation that Changed Everything

One day, our manager had enough and finally confronted him. I’d love to say it was me, but I was just a pimply-faced 16-year-old — definitely not gutsy enough to speak up and risk my pizza privileges (or my job).

Our manager, Tim, interrupted the man’s usual rant. He took him aside and calmly asked: “Sir, why do you continue to give us your business if you dislike our food so much? You seem awfully upset and often treat my employees poorly. Is everything okay?”

As I eavesdropped, I was shocked by the man’s response. “I’m sorry, Tim. I was fired from my job a couple months ago. I lost my house, and I’m living out of my car. Pizza is the cheapest, easiest thing for me to eat. Please tell your staff how much I appreciate them — they’re always nice to me, even though I’m not a very pleasant person myself.”

The Power of Empathy

My jaw hit the floor. None of us had known why he was always so grumpy — just that he seemed to enjoy taking it out on the servers.

Tim gave him the pizza for free that day. Then he invited the man to come back the next day to watch our team in action — to see how we made pizzas, to show him we cared about quality and about our customers.

Tim also gave him a free lunch.
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But the best part? After the “field trip,” our manager offered the man a job delivering pizzas — a chance to earn some income and get back on his feet.

Lessons that Stick

That experience taught me an incredibly valuable lesson: Confront the tough stuff — don’t let it own you.

I also became a firm believer that you attract more bees with honey than with sledgehammers. Once we understand why a customer is acting a certain way, we can respond with solutions that change the course of the relationship.

5 Steps to Turn Around a Tough Customer Relationship

If you’re dealing with a difficult client or customer, here are five practical steps to help you uncover what’s going on beneath the surface — and potentially save the relationship:
  1. Understand Their Perspective: Get curious. Ask questions. Listen more than you talk.
  2. Identify What Matters Most to Them: Is it speed? Price? Communication? Accuracy? Dig in and prioritize accordingly.
  3. Stay Solution-Oriented: Mistakes will happen. Focus on how you can fix the issue instead of pointing fingers.
  4. Get Personal: Remind them you’re a human too. Authenticity builds trust.
  5. Ask Yourself: Have I Done Everything I Can? Before you walk away, make sure you’ve genuinely tried to make it work.

Make Peace, Then Make the Call

After you’ve put in the work, take a moment to reflect.
Has the relationship improved? Or is it still toxic?
If things haven’t changed, it might be time to move on. But at least now, you’ll walk away knowing you did everything you could.
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” - Wayne Dyer

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    About the Author

    Travis Smith is the founder and managing director of Square-1 Engineering, a medical device consulting firm, providing end to end engineering and compliance services.  He successfully served the life sciences marketplace in SoCal for over 15 years and has been recognized as a ‘40 Under 40’ honoree by the Greater Irvine Chamber of Commerce as a top leader in Orange County, CA.

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